Posted by tabitha on May 19, 2004, at 0:49:19
In reply to about this therapist...., posted by karen_kay on May 18, 2004, at 14:59:11
Hi karen, I don't usually feel better after group either. Today a guy was talking about his girlfriend, and how she keeps pushing his buttons, and it sounds like he's pretty unhappy with her, but he says he wants to stay in the relationship because that's where he needs to grow, and all his partners bring up issues, and so the answer isn't to switch partners (doesn't he sound saintly?). I said the appropriate group thing, how brave that was, how most people would dump their partner, or dump on their partner, so he ought to give himself credit. Secretly I was wondering if they guy isn't just an idiot to stay in a painful situation for the sake of 'growth'. It's not like they're married and have kids or anything, it's just some woman he's been dating a few months. Afer I got home I realized that pretty much sums up my whole relationship with therapy and the group. It doesn't feel good, but I'm convinced I need it for my 'growth'. I don't know whether I'm brave or an idiot. The two views really seem to coexist. It makes me nuts to try to decide.
There, I'm no help at all am I?
poster:tabitha
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