Posted by antigua on July 16, 2004, at 17:01:04
In reply to EMDR number 3, posted by partlycloudy on July 15, 2004, at 16:55:58
Hello partlycloudy. I hope you're feeling better now. Try to hold on to the good parts.
I am so struck by the different techniques our EMDR therapists (yours and mine) use. I was fascinated by what yours taught you this week, especially since you weren't working w/a specific memory but a specific issue instead. You found a way to visualize the issue and were able to change your view toward it without having to deal w/a memory. Do I have that right?
My EMDR is much more situation focused. I know that the memories that come up aren't always exact memories, and they often "represent" an issue I'm working on, but I always start w/a fragment of a memory. I start one place and end up in a totally different area. This week I was able to connect completely w/my little girl feelings (that feeling that still haunts me every moment of my current life). I know how and when I experienced it; I even understand how the feelings were formed. It's hard to explain, but I totally understand the feelings now. Does that mean I can get over them now? I don't know how that connection is made.
I also learned more about the angry girl inside me. She is critical of the wounded girl and taunts and degrades her for having behaved like such a baby when the angry girl was able to escape the abuse by floating away. She may be angry, but I know the origin of her criticism: she is my father's voice, and she speaks the words he would tell me if I let my fear out. He was very critical and condescending in real life and I never realized I internalized his voice.
So that's what I learned this week. So different from you, but just as valuable to me.
Sorry to go on. I'm just really inspired by the different uses of the therapy.
Keep up the good work!
antiga
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