Posted by rs on July 22, 2004, at 6:15:11
In reply to email contact after termination, posted by gardenergirl on July 21, 2004, at 23:56:47
Hi. As you know I have contacted a T that I saw for many years. When he moved he made it clear that there was not to be any contact. If I wanted to write to mail it to his adress at the time and they would foreward it to him. Did that once. Ok. After about three years started therapy again. Talked about my old T and how the termination was wrong. How could someoene after all the years just not have contact. So a dear person here found his adress for me and I wrote him a letter and told him how I felt. T now knew this. Anyway he wrote back and was happy to hear from me etc. His number was on the letter head. One day I called and left him a message. He called back. I told him abouot my new T etc. No therapy involved at all. Just a general discussion on what was going on in therapy and how I felt he terminated in a wrong way. He agred. He told me that if he could be helpful in my treatment I could call him. Last week really needed his professional opinion concerning my therapy. He called me back. I told him what was going on. He gave me his opinion but did say to tell my T what we talked about etc. I did that. Anyway it helped me because he knew me. But he would never give my therapy if you know what I mean. I now know that if I just want to call him and say hi and general stuff it is ok. I hope this makes sense. It does help to know that if I come across in therapy I mean a major one he will be there to support me in the decision. He knows me and how I react to therapy. I told my T all bout the converstation and he is happy that I did that and have him for things like this. Do I still miss this person. Yes I do but not like I did. My new T is much better in many ways. But again he would never do therapy with me only if it has to do with me staying in therapy. He did say he likes my new T after hearing me talk aboout him. I know this must be a hard one for you especaill about the dependent issue. Hope all is well.
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