Posted by daisym on July 22, 2004, at 12:00:54
In reply to For Daisym, posted by Susan47 on July 21, 2004, at 19:57:45
Susan,
I have tons of contact with my therapist. He is psycho-dynamically oriented, and believes that "our" relationship is of primary importance. When I was going once a week, we didn't get very far and I frequently had melt downs in between. But I have a very hard time trusting this attachment. When I really struggle with it, or against it, his solution ALWAYS is to have me come in more. I tend to be very strong about solving my own problems. Learning to lean on someone and allow my needs to be met is very hard. It is the core of what we are working on. Not that there aren't tons of other issues. I'm a bit of a mess, as they say. I think I'm very lucky to have found him, because he respects the other demands in my life but he reaches past those to insist that I do what is best for me, even when I can't see it.Phone contact between sessions has been a whole other struggle but again, he thinks more is better. He is very clear about his boundaries, and that it might take a few hours for him to get back to me, especially on weekends. But he insists he wants to hear from me.
I think it is hard in some cases to move forward when you have to spend part of the session reconnecting. I think there are others here who have had the experience that increasing their frequency has increased their productivity. The flip side is that it has the potential to strengthen dependency, it can get expensive if your insurance has caps and you have to guard against making therapy your life, instead of having a life that includes therapy.
I'm curious why you try to avoid sessions. I have a push/pull about going. I know it will be emotional and painful but I also want to go. But it sounds like you totally don't want to go. This doesn't sound helpful.
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