Posted by Raindancer on July 24, 2004, at 10:24:38
In reply to Re: Starlight, posted by Susan47 on July 23, 2004, at 19:51:52
Susan, I have enjoyed your posts very much. As a T in training and someone who cares very deeply for her T as well I find it all very interesting. Falling in love is not the same as loving and there are very many different kinds of love and none of these stay the same over time. My T knows about my feelings for him and we talk about it (This is important!). He also cares for me, at least on a therapeutiic level but we are both aware that the relationship stays in the therapy room. We respect ourselves and each other enough not to do anything that would hurt the other, our relationship or our relationships in real life. (I still find it hard though!)
A few years ago this wouldn't have been possible for me, but he just kept on talking about it and I was able to express at least some of what I felt. Everyday relationships change things. That's why married love can become tedious without care and work and it would be just the same with a T once the initial passion had worn off. You are bright and brave, wise and thoughtful. Go well.Raindancer.
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