Posted by steelmagnolia25 on July 24, 2004, at 16:19:26
In reply to Re: For Starlight(last message for you too), posted by starlight on July 23, 2004, at 13:13:21
> I don't know how to explain it other than how I feel about it - it's like when I was in the military - there's not supposed to be any social/dating interaction between officers and enlisted. But I dated several officers, they were more educated in most cases, a couple were doctors, a couple were pilots, I even dated one (who knocked my socks off - I might add!) while I was in my tech school training. I'd sneak out of my window and meet him somewhere (and it was fun!)
starlight,
I totally understand your view. I, also, did some time in the military and the fraternization was quite rampant and usually without the serious consequences that *I think* many would predict.
I have been somewhat awed by the strictness of boundaries in therapy as compared to many other relationships such as teacher/student, officer/enlisted, etc.I try to believe it must be founded upon the fact that therapists learn so much more about our inner/personal (and usually painful) lives prior to the supposed affair. And yet I'm wondering how much that component matters when/if both therapist and patient seek to have a personal relationship. Furthermore, I've read extensively about the pain experienced by patients who have been exploited (in their own words) by therapists and yet I wonder what percentage of persons have sexual or otherwise inappropriate relations with Ts and don't go on to report it as exploitive? I don't mean to downplay the serious pain that I know some persons have felt as a result of crossing boundaries with their T, but at the same time it seems that having such strict boundaries actually causes some to want the relationship even more. The T, rather than seeming human, gets to assume a role "mightier" than any priest, teacher, doctor, or other person in our lives. Isn't that setup for the "fall?"
I'm know I'm bringing up some disturbing issues, but that's what I think about sometimes.
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