Posted by Rigby on September 1, 2004, at 13:40:56
In reply to Re: Dumb question » Rigby, posted by crushedout on September 1, 2004, at 13:15:34
I don't hate the thought that therapy made me more open to guys (or at least one.) I do not take it that way at all. I'm psyched that I didn't go to my grave not knowing this important piece of me.
However, I get what you're saying though about the reparative therapy. But it seems pretty implausible, at least to me (and maybe it's because my therapist is in Berkeley) that a therapist would be doing subversive therapy to get someone to go straight. I mean it actually never ever occured to me. I might have that thought if I transferred maternal feelings onto my therapist because, of course, my mother would *love* for me to be with a guy! But I don't think my therapist had any thoughts in this direction at all--conscious or not. I sure hope yours doesn't--and yes, that would make me queasy too!!! It'd be a good question to ask her!
> I hate the idea that therapy made us "open" to guys, even if that's true. It smacks too much of "reparative therapy." Ick.
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> I honestly don't think it's true for me, anyway. I think the right guy just came along, maybe. Which also makes my skin crawl (you don't know how many men have told me I was a lesbian because I just hadn't "met the right man yet." I should have said, "Yeah, and you're straight for the same reason").
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> But that's not what makes me queasy. I just don't like the idea of my T thinking I'm "healthier" now because I'm with a man and it's somehow thanks to her. If anything, the opposite is true.
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