Posted by JenStar on September 10, 2004, at 16:38:44
In reply to I'm feeling sick and dizzy, posted by Dinah on September 10, 2004, at 13:36:26
hi Dinah,
I'm sorry about this muddle you're in! I have no advice to offer; just my sympathies.I had to laugh when I read the line about "running incontinently" -- now there's a mental image for you! :)
I hope that the T gives it a chance, regardless of whether or not ego states are up for discussion. Maybe it would turn out GREAT? Hopefully it can't hurt to try it, right? I suppose it COULD hurt, in the sense that you might get exhausted and mentally drained and sad...but it's something so new. I give you a lot of credit for even having the courage to pursue this! :)
I was thinking about what your T said, along the lines of "all T's need to work with full information." I might disagree with him on what constitutes full information, and when it's needed.
When you started seeing HIM, there was no previous person to sit down and share notes and impressions, right? He had to build his knowledge of you from YOU, not a notebook?
Why shouldn't this other doctor do the same thing -- build an impression of YOU from meeting you, and not allow herself to be colored by xxx's impressions (which might be highly accurate, since you've been seeing him so long, but still!)
I know that professionals don't like to work in parallel to each other without talking because they're worried, perhaps, about reaching grossly different conclusions or steering you in a different direction.
But if a person could form such a different opinion if they didn't have notes to go on, wouldn't it be worth finding that out?
This is going to be a totally different scenario, but here's an example from my life of how professional conversing "behind the scenes" can color an impression:
One time a group of us at work were interviewing new-hires in an engineering team. One manager came up to a group of us and whispered, "Oh my god! The son of XXX manager is interviewing! We should all give him special attention and really listen to what he's saying, in case XXX wants to make a fuss if we don't hire him. He's kind of stupid but XXX really wants him to have a chance. I thought he was dull and didn't show creativity." He also continued on to tell us "Oh, and the other person? YYY applicant? She's kind of unstable and I think she got a DUI once. I heard her talking to someone on the phone and it didn't sound good. Just letting you know to probe for stability and stuff when you talk to her."
Naturally I coulnd't forget these things, even though I tried! It ended up that neither of the two got hired. I'm relatively sure it's because they were not qualified, but it's possible that the 'whispers' had something to do with it.
I know that's not a direct parallel at ALL. I just think that sometimes -- when people share thoughts BEFORE allowing each to make their own assessment -- it hinders individual and creative thought.
I don't know if that made sense or if it's in any way useful...just blurting out my thoughts.
Please keep us updated!
JenStar
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