Posted by daisym on October 30, 2004, at 15:14:21
In reply to Re: Daisym, Fallsfall, Annierose, posted by shrinking violet on October 30, 2004, at 13:54:34
SV,
I hope she does too. BUT, if she doesn't, I want you to go back to your original email and reread what you wrote. You had very good reasons for stopping and they were about her and not you. I'm concerned that you've turned this all around to be "your fault" and if she declines to restart that you will take this as evidence that you are bad or hopeless. You aren't either. Circumstances are often out of our control, as in, you can't control her behavior, only how you responded to it. Please hear me, I hope she does see you at least one more time. But I really do think you have to be careful about how big you've now built this up. You miss her, you hurt and so it is easy to take it on yourself because it hurts even more to "blame" her.
Just me worrying about you...
Daisy
poster:daisym
thread:407966
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20041026/msgs/409258.html