Posted by Bent on November 2, 2004, at 6:54:20
In reply to Re: Is it my therapist...or me? » Bent, posted by Dinah on November 1, 2004, at 18:00:03
I cant tell you all how nice it was to come home from a 12+ hour day and see all your responses. You all have given me lots to think about. I am still rather confused about this situation but I dont feel as irrational or angry. i think i will talk to my T about her reaction and that I sometimes think a break is a good idea, even though I am not entirely sure why. And maybe all the frustration I think she has with me is just a projection as to how I feel about my life right now.
I was very interested in the post a few weeks ago about secure vs insecure attachment. One reason (there are many) that has pushed me towards brining up termination in the first place is that after several yearss of insecure attachment, I now feel securely attached. But there is another factor that bothers me. While we can kinda tell whether an attachment is secure or not, how do we differentiate whether its a healthy or unhealthy attachment? I think this is really different from secure/insecure. And I think mine, although secure, is unhealthy for me anymore. That may be my number one reason for pushing myself to terminate. I havent told my t this. I will. My attachment to her is strong, it takes up too much of my life/time. Time is passing me by while I am off in fantasyland imagining my T can be my perfect mother. I am not saying I have no life at all, but its become too much of an issue for me. It makes me sad. It makes me really sad/angry that I am going to leave therapy and its killing me inside but it seems like just another day at work to her.
I will stop now. I didnt mean to go on. I guess I needed to vent! :)
Thanks for all your replies.
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