Posted by alexandra_k on February 6, 2005, at 21:53:33
In reply to Re: What is this then???? » alexandra_k, posted by daisym on February 6, 2005, at 21:05:36
I suppose they remind me of the worst fears I had about myself. I judge them to be the way that I was so afraid others judged me. I know I shouldn't judge them. But even the behaviours. I never did that, I didn't.
(I want to say 'I am not like that I am not' - but maybe I just won't face up to it...)
I guess the issue is that I do not cope at all well with people who frequently dysregulate emotionally. When people are upset it always sends me into a bit of a spin. But I have learned to control that and deal with it. I am always left reeling a bit inside but I usually understand that my response is my issue and I just take a couple of hours or days or whatever and then I am okay again. But when the dysregulation is (IMO) fairly much constant then I can't return to baseline before the next episode. And then, over time, as I feel more worn out I feel like I despise them for 'making' me feel that way - though, of course it isn't their fault.
Transference?
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