Posted by pinkeye on February 9, 2005, at 19:33:38
In reply to the longing, posted by namaste on February 9, 2005, at 18:36:35
I don't have really too much of suggestion to offer - the only consolation that I can offer, it seems to be a very typical response to therapy for lot of us - to want to see more of the Ts, to share everything with them, to be special to them, wish they are always there with you etc.
And all of us go through it in some way or the other - if you think of it rationally, it is a very valid emotional reaction to someonw who is involved in an intensely deep and emotional relationship with you - even though it is only a pseudo relationship and only tries to mimic a real world close relationship.
You will have to accept it at some point in time or the other in life. If you can afford it, mabye you can increase the frequency of therapy so you can see her more - in the hope that you will get fed up of her or grow yourself faster and become independant - which may or may not happen for a long time. Another possibility is to try to fill that need with real people from real world - which will kind of fill the vaccum left by your therapist.
> Saw my T today and tonite i miss that comfort and listening and sorting things out. i miss the safety of her office. As the week goes on I feel better. i have abandonment issues but this homesickness for her is so painful and she even thinks it is getting in the way of my therapy and I should get over it.I am trying, but I am sad after session.
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