Posted by Susan47 on February 9, 2005, at 20:57:50
In reply to Re: the longing, posted by namaste on February 9, 2005, at 19:53:46
Just an idea I want to throw out, but I'm wondering if you yourself are so uncomfortable with wanting your therapist that you're actually making her worry about it, when perhaps otherwise she might not. I think it is perfectly natural to feel what you're feeling; I felt that way, but instead of being honest about that I tried to cut back to lessen my dependency; and I think that had the reverse effect, it made me even more dependent. So for me, that was the wrong thing to do. I should've shared my feelings of dependency instead of being so afraid of them. But I thought and I still do, that the truth would've scared him and he would've cut me loose even more harshly than he did.
I just want to send you huge hugs namaste, and advise you to not obsess or feel badly in any way at all, for needing so much of your therapist. Personally I really believe the approach of more is better but I certainly understand not being able to afford it. Therapy is unbelievably tough in times like that, and it's wonderful to have a therapist who encourages the occasional call if you're feeling like you need it. Mine does now, she's very supportive of me calling, and guess what? I haven't felt the need to ... is that reverse psychology they're using on us? Hmh.
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