Posted by bent on February 10, 2005, at 20:04:05
In reply to A parent who drank a lot, posted by Dinah on February 10, 2005, at 19:33:11
This reminds me of myself. I don’t know what my dad is like without beer really. He drank beer everyday but I only saw my dad drunk once in my life. He drank beer everyday but until I was in my late teens I couldn’t fathom that he was an alcoholic. In my eyes my dad just 'liked' beer. My first therapist, when I was in high school, said he was an alcoholic. And he is. And I am a child of an alcoholic father. As of yesterday my dad had a beer in hand. But anyway, that was my dad to me. Beer and my dad just went together naturally. My family didn’t go anywhere without his beer packed in a little cooler also. I never thought it affected me until I grew up and was able to step out of the vicious circle of dysfunction that is my family. A lot of my problems stemmed from my mom's issues too. I do think it’s possible to not be affected by a parent that drinks a lot. My dad was ok. Not really active or ever overly happy for me but that was the dad I knew. I didn’t have anything to compare it to. Even with all my dad’s drinking I don’t think I am overly effected by it. What I was affected by was the dysfunctions created in my family. I guess this doesn’t really help you. Sorry to go on about myself but I am in a similar situation and I have often wondering the same thing.
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