Posted by pinkeye on March 1, 2005, at 16:21:31
In reply to Re: Wow. What a Concept. » pinkeye, posted by Susan47 on March 1, 2005, at 0:20:29
As much as you want to work on your feelings towards your therapist, and your interest in using that to understand yourself better, do know though that letting go of this person will probably do good for you in the long run rather than keep on trying to work on your feelings for him. It is called rumination and it doesn't do you any good if you keep trying to understand him, what he stood for, what he meant for you, what you were looking for from him, etc. All this thing only end up beign a downward spiralling movement and it never leads anywhere.
He probably hasn't thought about you even a little. And he has a full life himself with others. As much as it hurts you now to recognize this, I believe, acknowledging that would be the most effective first step that you can take towards letting him go from your life.
Slowly as you go about your life and create other meaningful relationship with other people, this unresolved puzzle with your therapist will fall into place - it is possible only by creating positive relationship with yourself and others and not by ruminating and digging it deeper and deeper and trying to work on it now. Logic never changes emotions. You will have to chnage your emtoions, and experiencing more positive relationship with others is the way to go to changing yoru emotions.
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