Posted by Tamar on December 6, 2005, at 14:23:24
In reply to Didn't chicken out after all, in the end, posted by Dinah on December 6, 2005, at 12:40:31
Good for you! I bet that took guts. I usually prefer to walk away as well…
> She admitted that her style was more change oriented than I might be used to, but said she was willing to try to pace herself to my ability to tolerate it. But warned that she wasn't going to change it so much that I wouldn't still get angry and anxious from time to time.
I suppose a little anger and anxiety is almost inevitable in any kind of therapy.
> And we changed the goal from growing up my "little girl" as she calls it. I let her know that I'd worked hard and long to accept and respect that part of me, and that that approach was better overall for my life.
Yeah, I can imagine that. I suppose… I wonder how much that part of you is willing to share your body with the mother or wife part of you. But I’m probably talking rubbish. It’s just… sometimes I have to tell myself I’m allowed to be an adult. But it’s probably a different thing…
> So... We'll try another four sessions under the new understanding and then evaluate the results. We also clarified that we'd keep it strictly sex therapy, since I'm seeing T1 regularly for the moment.
I like that sort of plan. It makes sense.
> She said she respected that I came in and talked about it. That usually if people had a problem with her style, they just quit coming. I told her that was my usual style as well. :)Yeah, I think it was really good that you talked to her. I’m shaking my p*m-p*ms!
Tamar
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