Posted by Dinah on December 12, 2005, at 18:16:48
In reply to What happened today ...., posted by annierose on December 12, 2005, at 16:24:55
Sounds dreadful, Annierose. I hate it when they just don't get it.
It sounds a lot like my session, except that my therapist got it, at least a bit. And except that I overdisclosed things to him in a manner I wouldn't normally have done.
What he said about this particular topic is that therapists are trained to be exceedingly neutral about things like this, and he would never express regret at missing a session even if he felt it, because it would be putting his needs into the conversation. It might make the client feel bad about missing the session, because they want to please the therapist.
I told him he was an idiot. Not in so many words. But I told him that if a therapist worded something the way you suggested in an earlier post, that they could convey caring without entering into the territory he feared, or without "gratifying" the client excessively.
I think he thought about what I said. But I'm not sure he'll do anything different. Old ways of thinking are hard to change.
By the way, your husband's new boss just sounds a bit off. I wouldn't take anything she said to heart. Just feel sorry for your husband.
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