Posted by jammerlich on January 3, 2006, at 20:25:47
In reply to what to do with the pain, posted by bent on January 3, 2006, at 10:44:11
I'm sorry it has to be so difficult and painful. I wish it weren't that way. It seems like, if all was right in the world, that once we understood where the feelings come from, they would finally go away!! I mean, WHAT in the world is it going to take??
But please try not to quit. I'm not sure it will work the way you're hoping. Granted, I did not leave my T by choice, but all the maternal feelings are STILL there, as strong as ever, a whole year later. I'm beginning to think the only way to really get through them is to stick it out. Though I may be the exception rather than the rule.
Please try to talk to her about it and do your best to let her know when you feel like she's trying to push you in another direction. See what she has to say about that. She may not know how to handle it or her orientation might not place much emphasis on it and those are important things for you to know.
Take good care.
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