Posted by fairywings on January 5, 2006, at 14:17:42
In reply to Still can't deceide on what to do, posted by happyflower on January 5, 2006, at 12:59:09
(((Happy)))
I think you still have an appt., and if you don't show he can bill you. I'd either cancel or go.
Do you think you want to continue with him? Do you think it will help to work through this with him? To build up some callouses? If so, go. If you don't think you can forgive him and you'll spend so much time undoing the damage, then it depends on whether it's worth it to you. I think part of therapy is working through these kinds of things, after all it's a relationship, and all relationships have the potential for pain and hurt feelings. I hate it, I would guess we all do, and I tend to give up, but I hope you won't.
I know how much you cared for him. Do you think it would be worth it to go and get his side, and maybe confront all the issues? Your feelings have been badly skinned, you're still feeling raw, it doesn't sound like sitting with the feelings is helping - it sounds like you need to talk to someone. I hope you do, whether it's him or someone else.
I hate to have to pay someone to undo hurt feelings like you had, but I guess it does happen. It happened with me, and I quit, switched to a new T. You know, and that has worked out well so far. But it was painful to start over with someone new, and give up the old T, even though he hurt me. I still care for him, but now I like him, and I'm not angry. One way or another you'll have to work through this, whether it's with him, by yourself, or with someone else. I don't know which is the shortest, least painful path.
Hugs....
fw
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