Posted by littleone on January 21, 2006, at 1:19:13
In reply to Re: My Comfort Book » littleone, posted by daisym on January 20, 2006, at 18:01:47
> Touching is a strange thing. I want it -- but I know that the minute it happens I'll get terrified and uncomfortable. My children are touchy and huggy. They like to hang on me and I have to pry myself loose in a way that doesn't offend them. My husband has always commented on how stiff I am slow dancing but only recently did I figure out that it is because someone is invading my personal space.
I was thinking it might be easier for you to initiate the casual touch because it gives you more control. I think there's a difference between someone invading your personal space (like in the above examples) and you reaching out to someone from your personal space.
I have a very large personal space. It is always being invaded by people behind me in queues and at the supermarket and whatnot.
> You made it through the end of the first week.Yeah. One down, three to go. He specifically told me NOT to count down the days, but I simply can't cope without that solid end to aim for. I have 16 days to go.
> Have you been writing your feelings down so you can share them with your therapist when he comes back?
Yeah. His big letter practically orders me to keep journalling while he's gone and to mail it all to him so he doesn't have to "lever" it out of me when he gets back. I'm real uncomfortable with mailing him stuff (I've done it before and it's never turned up. I hate the thought of it still floating around somewhere) and I was very concerned about writing too much for him. He kind of waved all that aside and said it could never be too much. So far there's 10 very very full pages and I'm only 1/3 of the way through. He's gonna have a book when he gets back.
> Do you have plans for the weekend?
I'm not sure. I had planned to do some things in town on Saturday (which I've just finished doing) and then go for a hike on Sunday. But it is too rainy to go where I wanted to and my husband wanted me to stay home. I thought that would be okay because then we could go to the movies together which we haven't done for years, but he's not happy about that at all. I don't understand why. So Sunday's looking a bit empty at the moment. I have some books to read and a jigsaw to do and some pictures to put in my comfort book. Oh, and the housework.
I think Tuesday will be harder (when I normally have a session). I was thinking of calling in to my T's office (it will be open with his receptionist and other T's) and sitting by his door and read/write/draw. Then I can slip all the junk I've written under his door instead of mailing it.
If you went to see your T and saw a client sitting on the floor outside another T's office door, would you think they were a fruitcake? Would you think they were bad or doing the "wrong thing"?
> I was thinking that if you don't want to keep your comfort book out, just keep a small symbol out that will remind you to go pull it out. Sometimes that works for me.Yeah, I don't understand yet why I can never help myself when I'm feeling very bad. I actually carry my journal and comfort book around with me everywhere. You'd think I'd remember to look at them. Maybe I should put something on my pillow or bedhead and on my computer screen at work and with my chocolates as an added reminder. I'll have to think about it.
Thank you for helping me through my T's holiday. It's really meant a lot to me.
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