Posted by littleone on January 11, 2006, at 14:59:08
In reply to Re: My Comfort Book » littleone, posted by daisym on January 10, 2006, at 15:04:31
> As usual, in my haste to comfort I neglected to ask, "how would YOU like to be comforted." Sigh. I have the right answers but I don't always put them to the right questions. :)
No, you did just right. In fact it's probably better you *didn't* ask me what I needed because never in a million years would I have suggested some regular contact. And you didn't steamroll me with it. Just offered it and gave me a choice. I think you did just right.
> I was putting things in my book last night and now my son wants to make one. It is going to be hard for me not to control this because so far in his box he has pictures of the Simpons, a Halo emblem, the words to Free Bird, and pictures of his brothers, his friends and his cats.
This is so sweet, it really brought a smile to my face. A little kid's secret stash of special stuff. It's funny how what's important to us changes as we get older. I kind of have a feeling that I used to have a secret stash of stuff when I was younger, but I really can't remember. It's sad how I'm missing so much of my childhood. I wonder if it ever comes back.
> I'm tempted to say "what about me?" but I kept my mouth shut.
Maybe he doesn't need you in there because you're always there for him. He knows you'll be close by if he needs you. Or you have such a strong attachment to him, he doesn't need reminders of you. You're safely stored in him (I guess I'm trying to say he has good object constancy with you, you stay with him inside all the time).
> OH -- the cutest thing, he put the wrapping to a tea bag, because that is what he drinks when he feels bad.
Oh, I loved this. It is cute and he is so clever to think of that. And it would be sweet to see a kid drinking tea. It's such a grown up thing.
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