Posted by gardenergirl on January 9, 2006, at 16:31:13
In reply to Re: My Comfort Book trigger » daisym, posted by littleone on January 9, 2006, at 15:30:05
> I have his hanky and we talked about him leaving a note with me.
Hi littleone. Boy, those therapist vacations can be tough. I'm not going to see mine for about two weeks after tomorrow, and even though I'll be busy, I know I'll miss him.
I'm sorry the note was not helpful. I know asking for it was a huge risk and probably terrifying. Was this last time or just now? And can you talk a bit here about what was disappointing in the note?
> I'm pretty sure he doesn't use back up T's while he's away, so I'm pretty sure I should just find another T to see for those few weeks. Just ask them for some short term support. Knowing my luck they'll kick me out when they realise I'll be going back to him afterwards. The whole not seeing 2 T's at a time thing.Can you ask him to refer you to someone and to form an agreement for temporary supportive therapy? I don't think that would be "against the rules". That might also take some burden off of you to find another one.
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> I'm supposed to see my T again on Wed and Fri, then he leaves. And I know I *should*. But I also know that I won't have anything written for him. And I'll be so far in my shell I won't utter a word. And a limping along vegetable session is the very last thing I need now.That sounds like it would be hard. Can you think of anything at all you can bring in? It sounds like it would be important for keeping your connection to see him this week. Anything at all, sort of like Show and Tell from childhood? Anything that reminds you of different moods, thoughts, or ways of thinking about yourself? How about bringing in your comfort book and maybe the part in your post about how it hasn't worked out the way you hoped?
I'm so sorry about the flowers. How hurful. I agree with Daisy, though, that your sentiments and the thought are intact, even if the physical object no longer is.
I'm sure that dealing with your emotions and the accident, particularly near the anniversary, must be very hard. It must also be a bit confusing that your T does not think it's a good time to work on this important area. I do know from my training that even if there's a really big thing to work on, sometimes it's better to do a great deal of supportive and skills-oriented work first, before opening up something so raw. I know it sounds backwards sometimes. But the last thing any T would want to do is to open up something with someone and make things worse when they are already struggling. I hope that makes sense. I guess I'm saying I can understand your T's position and also why it might seem odd to you. You've still got the feelings and thoughts about the accident, afterall.
I can also understand why that might feel depressing, especically since you've been in therapy for awhile. It's such a process, isn't it? Maybe when your T returns, you can revisit the treatment plan to give you some sense of where you've come from and where you're going. I find that can be helpful to me when I am starting to feel hopeless and frustrated at how long I've been in therapy.
You know, I don't have any explanations for your experience here. I know with this thread, it came at a time when I didn't have a lot of time to read all the threads, and then there was the, er, "excitement" going on on the other boards, so that cut into my reading and responding time, too.I'm glad I got a chance to read today. It's nice to get to know you a little bit better.
(((((littleone))))))
Take care,
gg
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