Posted by orchid on May 22, 2006, at 17:02:08
In reply to Re: I think both my Ts really liked and cared for, posted by B2chica on May 22, 2006, at 15:39:36
Thanks B2C. I think it is the best thing to do for myself now, regardless of what the truth is/was. It is better to believe that they cared and go on and put it behind me for good, rather than keep thinking they didn't and hurting myself again and again.
And besides, all my negative thinking so far did serve a purpose and I think was there for a reason now that I look back - it helped me look at myself further and find out what was wrong with me and, and that led to lot of discovery about my behavior patterns and issues with my dad and the abuse etc.
But it is over. And following the same line of thinking and feeling wouldn't serve any purpose hereafter other than to just hurt myself more.
And besides, at this point of time, believing my Ts cared about me does me a lot of good - it helps me be closer to my husband even. I couldn't be good to my husband if I loathed myself and thought I was unlikeable. So, that is the right path to go from here onwards.
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