Posted by Tamar on January 20, 2007, at 18:19:52
In reply to Re: A funny thing happened… » Tamar, posted by Dinah on January 20, 2007, at 12:31:33
> I doubt there is any reason to be embarassed, even if you were giving a clue to your real feelings. Maybe your hands were just trying to help you tell him. :)
That's a good way to look at it! Thanks!
> I did like the way he responded, at least to that part of it. Did he respond well to what you said with words?
Better than ever before. He said something about my needing something from him, and perhaps trying to find something appropriate that would work for both of us, but I backed off from that because it all seemed too tangible. I said I didn't want to find a 'thing'; I just want to have the conversation about why I'm looking for comfort and reassurance from him. He seems to think I want him to do something, and that I feel he's withholding it, but really all I want at this stage is for him to engage in conversation...
> It kind of makes me want to do it next week, just to see what my therapist says. Or if he merely does the same to me in return. (grin)
Oh yeah! Imagine it! Oh, I'd love to know what would happen. If he simply does the same to you in return it would seem to signify a level of intimacy and mutual understanding that I'd love to have with my therapist.
> (Wasn't there a Seinfeld about that? George realized that a waiter kept pointing to things with his middle finger when addressing him, and the more usual index finger when responding to others?)
That rings a bell. I'm sure you're right. Actually, I have a colleague who does that, but it doesn't seem to be directed at anyone in particular. Still, it's un-nerving!
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