Posted by ShortElise on January 24, 2007, at 14:01:52
In reply to A funny thing happened…, posted by Tamar on January 19, 2007, at 19:19:10
OK, here's soomthing I have never been able to understnad about myself - I go to therapy for help, and then, I hesitate to reveal all the pieces of the puzzle! I KNOW this, I KNOW I am prevaricating sometimes, and I KNOW it's got to be counterprodcutive. Though, perhaps, what we do not reaveal reveals more than we realize?
Our T's know that they are a blank canvas onto which we project, transfer, vomit, poop and otherwise toss all of our own stuff. It's not about them. They are supposed to sit there and help us sift through it, and work through the relationship we build with them based on all the detritis we dump on them. They are supposed to have the skills to keep the necessary perspective on all of this. That said, they are people, but hopefully they are well-trained people.
So why are we ashamed? Why do we hold back?
That aside, the day I walked into therapy I accepted that body language sometimes speaks way louder than the words we speak, and I decided NOT to pay any attention to my body language, but to leave it to my therapist, in a sense, to give at least THAT to him freely. I later told him that. BUt come to think of it, we've never discussed it.
ShortE
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