Posted by wishingstar on March 21, 2007, at 19:55:30
In reply to Re: ginny, posted by raisinb on March 20, 2007, at 12:08:25
hi raisinb... good to see you out of hiding for a bit. :) I posted an update below, but I wanted to respond to what you posted briefly too.
First of all, nothing you said makes me feel any worse, so please dont worry. A big part of me agrees with you (and everyone else on here).. it's just not fair what Ginny is doing. But at the same time, I wonder if maybe it just SOUNDS bad but really my issues are bigger/different/etc than you all know and I'm really just being the crazy one here. I just dont know. But it does help to know that I'm not the only one who sees that this is hurtful!
To her credit, we talked Tuesday about the email issue and the comment she made about me quitting therapy overall and both are okay now. We werent really on the same page with those two thnigs. I think she spoke a lot out of frustration, mixed with some misunderstanding on my part, but those two are fixed.
The trust issue and her walking away (sort of) during this hard time is still very big though. I can feel us startng to move past it but I think its always going to linger.. at least for a long time.. because I dont think the real issue is being dealt with. I feel like the immediate feelings were said and shes saying "yes, I hear you, but theres nothing I can do" so we're just pushing it under the carpet.. but I'm not deaing with the hurt or the abandonment feelings at all. I dont know how to get deeper into that but I dont think she does either.
I just dont know what to think!
Thanks for your thoughts. :) Hope to see you posting more soon..
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