Posted by muffled on July 23, 2007, at 1:02:53
In reply to What i would want in a T....what else?, posted by muffled on July 22, 2007, at 12:26:45
**Which ones is MY T good for??? Hmmm
> - a person who is consistant with follow thru of stuff from session to session.
**Nope
> - VERY organized and consistant and clear as to what direction we taking.**nope
> - a person who will not let me get away w/wimping out or being lazy
**sometimes...
> - who is willing to push me hard into organizing my life, and holding me accountable.
**nope
> - a person who has some experience w/memory loss, dissociation, depression, addictions, etc.
**nope
> - a person who's real matter of fact bout sex and intimacy stuff
**nope
> - who is clear about 'stuff' in therapy - clear boundaries
**sorta
> - who is good at getting to the crux of the situ. cuz I often am confused. So good questions mebbe to help me find way.
**sometimes
> - who does LOTS of reflecting
**sometimes
> - honest and straighforward**YES!!!!!
> - not some radical religion
**YES!
> - sliding scale
**YES!
> -write stuff down lots or even record sessions.
**nope
**Hmmmm, I think this makes my T look bad, cuz what I was looking for when I first went to her is DIFF from what I looking for now. I could add.
Good at unconditional acceptance. YES
Someone I feel comfortable with. YES
Someone who will be patient with me. YES
Someone to teach me to cope. YES
Someone who makes me feel better bout myself and humanity. YES
Someone who would bend over backwards to try and help me. YES
Etc etc.
So she IS good at many things, and they have helped me. But I think if I am to progress, that maybe I need a diff approach now. God, I SO wish it could be OK with her, I want to try.....but I wonder if I should :-(
Guess I can at least somehow get up the gumption to talk to her bout it. Try and actually talk some.
Prob is that she SO brings out my younger parts and that messes me up for trying to communicate.
LOL, one time my 'Toughie' was there, and she at one point said she was ready to throttle me!!! LOL! I think I will always remember that as a most wonderful moment, cuz it went right to Toughie and she was SO delighted.
But my T tries, but don't understand ego states much, so while she has tried to 'talk' to kid or whatever, she doesn't persue it. She kinda is lost I think, and so is all over and not terribly coordinated in what we trying to do. She dunno, amnd I dunno either.
Oh well.
If you still reading anybody...thanks.
Muffled
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