Posted by peddidle on September 5, 2007, at 18:37:03
In reply to I'm jealous, posted by LlurpsiEnOoDLe on September 4, 2007, at 20:16:34
> of those who can talk about the T-client relationship with their T's. I can't talk about it. I'd rather talk about ANYTHING else. The most shameful & traumatic moments in my life. But the relationship? that's truly truly terrifying.
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> Seriously, I've been in therapy for a year and a half, and I've only mentioned the T-me relationship a handful of times, very tentatively, and in passing.
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> How can I DEAL with it, if I can't even talk about it with my T? I make up all these reasons why I *shouldn't* talk about it. I make up all of these excuses. next week, next week, etc.
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**Did I write this? No? Funny-- it sounds just like me. :PI wish I had an answer for you, but, unfortunately, I'm clueless. All I can say is that I've been in therapy with the same T for about 3 years (minus summers) and I only mentioned how I truly feel about our relationship a few months ago, in an email no less. I've seen her twice since I got back, and she hasn't brought it up yet.
If I really decide to do something like that, I have to do it right that minute, because, otherwise, I know it'll never happen. Does your T allow email? Would you be able to tell him that there is something you really want to be able to discuss with him, and ask him for his email address, so that when you decide you're ready, you can just email him and not give yourself a chance to put it off any longer?
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