Posted by TherapyGirl on September 6, 2007, at 19:12:37
So I've been working at my new job since last November. Over the months, I have developed a close friendship with a co-worker, particularly in the last couple of months. We have been working late lots together and have thus had a LOT of conversations about various things. Several months ago, when I figured out my T wasn't on my new health insurance (and that the insurance co. put ridiculous conditions on her working hours for her to be "eligible), I complained to this co-worker, who is on our management team. I did it via e-mail and she had a wonderful response to it. She even told me that she had been in therapy before and she'd like to talk to me about this more. But we never did.
Fast forward several months and I have talked about this co-worker a fair amount in therapy -- not every week, but I really like her and we are pretty bonded. She also lives in my neighborhood. So last night, she came over to talk for a while. I showed her a letter from the wonder-insurance co. inviting me to file for disability. WHAT????? She took one look at it and said they sent it because of the mental health diagnosis. I told her that couldn't be it, because I only filed one claim, which they denied, and that T (I used her first name, which is fairly unusual) used "Adaptive Disorder" as my diagnosis. And as far as I know, no one has EVER gotten disability for that diagnosis. Co-worker looked at me funny for a minute and said, "What's her name?" So I said T's first name again and then she filled in her last name. Then she said, "I *love* her. I was in therapy with her for years." I said, "Probably not as long as I have been." LOL
So we had a good conversation and I feel okay about that. I think it would be weirder for me if she was currently in therapy with MY T. But here's the thing. Of course, I brought it up tonight with T and she laughed and asked me if I had any issues to discuss around that. And I don't really, except:
I can't stop thinking that for months I have talked about this woman and never once got a clue that T had ever even met her, much less been in therapy with her. And I get that, I really do. But it was basically a lie. So now I sit here and wonder about her ability to lie straight to my face and I didn't have a clue.
So what do you think? I'm trying not to obsess about this...
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