Posted by DAisym on September 6, 2007, at 19:53:10
In reply to My T is Apparently a Good Liar LONG, posted by TherapyGirl on September 6, 2007, at 19:12:37
I'm pretty sure what you meant when you said "I get this" is that you understand that your therapist is bound legally and ethically. But yeah, it would give me pause too. We think we can read them and this tells you we can't always. Which is good and bad, right?
I think it is important to bring it up and clear the air about it. I know you talked to her about finding this out but the deeper question of "are you hiding anything from me that I might need to know or be concerned about -- like feelings of..." is a fair one to ask. I tell my children all the time, "don't lie to me about stupid things because then I won't trust you with the important stuff." Anything weird like this can shake trust, no matter how justifiable or necessary.
My guess is that most therapists get really good at not reacting. We can say just about anything and they are very good at splitting their minds - the front they show us says, "say more about that" and the in the back they are thinking, "uh-oh! or crap! or where the hell did that come from?"
It must be hard to be a therapist sometimes.
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