Posted by Dinah on September 11, 2007, at 16:52:00
In reply to Is avoidance really so bad?, posted by Dinah on September 6, 2007, at 9:38:28
I brought it up today. I had been thrown back to the past by a lovebug splatting on my windshield, so the timing was right.
I brought it up a bit tentatively, discussing my concerns in talking to him about it, and in a roundabout way trying to convey what I wouldn't find helpful.
I'm not sure yet how it went. It almost sounded as if he was going into some sort of "discussing Katrina" mode, although I'll confess that that may have just been my own fears rather than an actual reflection of what he was doing. But I did get some tears out. It is so hard for me to cry about this. About anything really. And I do have his encouragement to continue when I need to.
One thing he did say that resonated was that it made sense that my feelings were coming out now rather than the actual date of the hurricane, because the major trauma took place during the month after, during the evacuation. When no one knew what was going on, but when it certainly sounded like destruction beyond comprehension. While we were huddled over Google Earth and the local radio on the internet. Hearing rumors and counterrumors, and things that weren't true and things that were true. I liked that he really deep down understood that.
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