Posted by muffled on September 12, 2007, at 13:23:45
In reply to Those icky topics in threapy, posted by Wittgenstein on September 12, 2007, at 5:15:08
> Sex, sexuality, intimacy, body image...
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> I've avoided them long enough but sooner or later I'm going to have to 'go there'. Eeks!
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> I sent my T a letter 2 weeks ago touching on some of my issues with body image, feminimity and my fear of being 'just like my mother' but now he wants me to talk about it. I'm so prudish and embarrassed and it feels plain weird to talk about it with him - or well anyone for that matter.
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> You all seem so much braver than me!
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> How did you make this step? Was it such a big deal for you? How did you push yourself to talk openly about these difficult topics? He says I have to try and step a little out of my comfort zone - push back my boundaries - but this is a lot out of my comfort zone :(
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> I'm getting anxious about going to therapy - before Friday's session I threw up and yesterday's session was useless, the whole day I felt highly anxious, shaky, dizzy, nauseous - detached. Could this all be a response to my fear of talking about these topics?**Witti, I'm with you all the way as far as those topics being so hard. I got lady T and I stii scared to go there.
But what I felt about your post, is that you are not ready to go there, your not feeling 'safe' enuf....your T needs to help you with some more coping stuff. IMHO, if your too freaked, then dissociation sets in, and the session doesn't accomplish much....
Can you negotiate w/T and say...."yes, I would eventually like to dig in, and may start, but can you be alert to my comfort zone, and if I am freaking, STOP, and work on grounding/relaxtion/connection type stuff". For me, I would want to know for sure that T understood to stop if it was getting too hard...
Therapy is so hard, but you seem to be having excessive anxiety round where you are going.
I am sort of in the same place in some ways, and what I have been telling myself is that I trust my T, and I feel that if I am getting in a bad way, that she will stop and help me come back. This is what I tell myself.......LOL! I dunno whether it working!!!I 'avoided' by talking bout irl kids today, which needs to be done, but it was easier for me, HA!
So I hope you can figger how to ease yourself somehow....good topic for a session.
Take good care,
M
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