Posted by DAisym on June 11, 2008, at 21:02:52
In reply to Re: What is my therapist?(Afraid of Going Upstairs, posted by sassyfrancesca on June 11, 2008, at 8:54:32
I think it is interesting that your therapist changes based on who you need him to be, not who he presents himself to be. Roles change, yes, but who we are shouldn't really change when the roles change. I don't know if I'm making sense.
It seems like it would help to see your therapist as who he is - a warm, empathic person who wants to help you. Or a funny, witty person who wants to help you. It might then help you see yourself as who you really are, not just the role you are in for other people. Knowing our core-self, the self that is the essence of who we are, is really important.
I'm not very good at this myself, I must admit. I tend to hide behind those roles, trying to figure out how to be whatever it is a particular person needs me to be. My therapist just wants me to be me - to feel what I'm feeling, not what I think I should be feeling and he wants me to let him be him - to not introject all my fears into him and then treat that as the reality.
it is very, very hard.
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