Posted by LittleGirlLost on July 28, 2008, at 15:40:42
In reply to Re: crap crap crap *kind of long* » LittleGirlLost, posted by raisinb on July 26, 2008, at 11:57:30
> Hi LGL,
> Thank you! It is hard to feel like my feelings are valid. I know she's trained to work with them. But MAN--when I am talking to her, it seems almost impossible to bring stuff like this up. We're almost the same age, which for some reason makes it all the harder.Yes, It *IS* hard to feel like your feelings are valid, but they are (no matter how invalid or illogical they seem!). Just before my T went on vacation, we were processing it, and I didn't feel entitled to any of my feelings; of course she encouraged them. I remember trying to justify them to her, I was telling her that "I understand a vacation, and I understand, etc etc." I told her that I get vacations too, but... (and it was like I understood it all intellectually but not emotionally) she stopped me and just looked and me so reassurringly and said, "I know you do." (It was actually a really warm moment.) So many times she has to remind me that it's not about logic.
So Raisin, have your feelings, and share them with her. They're there for a reason and she will help you with them. Good luck!
(Actually, you've inspired me to think about bringing this up with my therapist. Not that there's any chance of her becoming pregnant, but knowing that I would have the same reaction that you are is certainly worth exploring. Then again, she knows I have problems sharing her, so she is aware of my issues with sibling rivalry, so maybe in a way, we are exploring it.)Again, good luck with this!
LGL
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