Posted by Daisym on September 9, 2008, at 23:28:20
In reply to Re: an IMHO post, posted by no_rose_garden on September 9, 2008, at 23:06:35
I think it actually takes a lot of time to respond to each poster individually and by name. Sometimes a person has the energy for it, and sometimes they don't. When Babble started, it was more the norm to reply to "all" or to have an ongoing conversation down the thread with the whole group, instead of one-to-one. It has evolved into this reply to each person, which is why, I think, some people don't post often. They don't have the energy to get back to everyone. And as nice as it is, sometimes there isn't much to say except "thanks for the support" over and over again. As a reader, it can get tedious to click, read that, click, read the same thing, click read it again, etc. So then people only click on their own name - and the community conversation is lost.
I think each person should do what they are comfortable with and we should all embrace a wide array of styles. I know people need comfort and support, but Babble can also be a place of nudging, of alternative ideas, of challenges and of hotly debated topics.
There was a thread many moons ago about taking care of yourself and your own sensitivities here. I think we all need to do that because from day to day we may change what we want or need. Sometimes we post and then run away. Sometimes we want to write novels. Sometimes we only want to read and not reply. Sometimes we are too depressed to do anything. Subject lines are important to inform us of things we should stay away from - or posters avoid other posters because they know they get triggered by that person's "stuff."
I hope I'm not hurting your feelings. I think it is perfectly fine if you want to respond in your way. I just don't want others to feel there is only one "right" way here.
Daisy
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thread:851256
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