Posted by lucie lu on September 10, 2008, at 7:49:47
In reply to Re: an IMHO post » lucie lu, posted by 10derHeart on September 10, 2008, at 0:53:54
> I understand your view, lucie, but I am often, no, almost always, incapable of "trying extra hard to make the effort" to do as you suggest. I wish I could. In the beginning I could - sometimes. Then, for whatever the reason (anxiety-related, I think for not totally sure yet) I couldn't any more.
>Perhaps the phrase, "trying extra hard" sounds like when you want to tell your kid to do something but try to ask them politely :) And I am no one's mother (no one here, anyway).
You and Daisy usefully raised several reasons a thread might not be replied to, and those points are very valuable to add to the discussion. What I know about you 10der is that you don't post very often and that you have really been hurting. I wish you felt that the board could be more supportive and accepting of you because I personally would like to try to help when you post. The last thing I want is for you to feel so pressured and afraid that you avoid posting altogether.
I am glad that you shared candidly about how you feel because it raises awareness of how some people might be experiencing Babble - and what might make you feel more comfortable.
> What I've done is choose not to post hardly ever, even when I *really* want to, exactly to avoid this very thing. Funny - I still feel badly about the last time, and the time before that, when I know I didn't reply to people's replies. Really badly. I even remember who the posters are, and am so afraid they resent me or something.
I'm really sorry you feel that way. Like homework undone, which was always a spectre for me in school. But I doubt that most people "keep score" on any individual. There's always too much going on and you can't listen and keep track at the same time.
> I'm glad you raised the issue - it could be a great discussion.I hope it is helpful on some level.
I hope you feel you can come on whenever you want to or feel the need.
Best, Lucie
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