Posted by Annierose on September 19, 2008, at 7:56:08
In reply to Re: I miss him so much, posted by seldomseen on September 19, 2008, at 6:06:26
I hope you don't regret posting the truth of what your heart feels.
Years ago when I abruptly interrupted my therapy treatment, I did feel that ache in my heart, the open wound you speak of so beautifully. What helped me come to peace with my decision (very different from yours ... I didn't move away, I just quit therapy) was to speak about my loss to another therapist. The person I choose was completely different in so many ways. And for me, it was what I needed. I could never replace "her" or the relationship we had. I needed someone to dump, vent, cry and help me contain those feelings. And she let me over and over and over again until one day I didn't need to go anymore. I made peace with myself and my decision.
You moved to be closer to your daughter and granddaughter. That has wonderful rewards and I can see why you moved. But in the move you loss a special relationship. Are you able to talk about your loss with another therapist? He/She will never be "him" ... no one could ever be your t. Maybe you will find peace while you still continue your long distance therapy friendship so that ache will be gentle and not piercing.
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