Posted by Dinah on January 15, 2009, at 11:43:48
In reply to Re: I think I might give it back *long* » Dinah, posted by raisinb on January 15, 2009, at 10:44:26
Do you have any more sessions with her before her leave? It would be a shame to part on that note.
Is it possible to see the issue somewhere in the middle?
That she was focusing too much on your relationship because she's going away, and because she sensed you were withdrawn, and she wants to leave on a good note so she doesn't have worries on her mind during her maternity leave.
And you perhaps were being self protective by allowing other concerns to override your therapy concerns? Particularly since the session before was such a good one. There might have been some pull to "save" that one. Now it's tainted. I think it's natural for someone to disengage before having a source of support yanked out. It's a shame she didn't recognize and honor that.
And darn it, why should she go off for weeks and weeks of bliss with no worries on her mind about the clients she left behind? She *should* have her clients on her mind to some extent. That's her end of holding on to the connection.
Just a few thoughts based quite a bit on projection on my part, I'm sure. (Although I'd have absolutely no trouble making my therapist's life miserable under those circumstances, and did.)
I hope you have another session to try to fix this before she's gone.
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