Posted by seldomseen on January 20, 2009, at 8:48:07
In reply to Mothering my mother and family dysfunction., posted by seldomseen on January 19, 2009, at 13:55:55
Honestly, I'm still glowing from your feedback and the steps I took with my parents.
My mom went to her mammogram and dad cleaned (is cleaning) up the mess - good for him. Putting all that on me (the daughter) is just not fair.
Anyhoodle.
You could have knocked me over with a feather when my father apologized for his behaviour. I'm so thankful that I was able to graciously accept his apology and didn't punish him for it. I truly think he might prove to be trainable! I also think I earned, in some measure, his respect by not bowing to the manipulation. He pushed and I pushed back - harder.
My mother is now and will always be the person she is. There will be no change with her. I accepted this long ago, I'm glad that I *finally* was able to change.
Seldom
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