Posted by seldomseen on January 22, 2009, at 20:49:14
In reply to I want my therapist to be less careful, posted by Dinah on January 22, 2009, at 12:47:50
So, I think what I am hearing say is that your theraputic relationship is strong enough to withstand whatever it is he might have say.
But you think that your therapist isn't convinced of that fact and still is very much in the "therapeutic relationship nurturance mode".
You know, I have a really bad habit of telling people to just say what's on their minds - not to worry I won't get mad. But you know what? I get mad. In fact, I've really got to quit saying that.
Perhaps instead I should say something like, just tell me what's one your mind, don't worry I'm sure we can deal with whatever it is.
Maybe *that's* what you need to tell your therapist.
On the other hand, do you worry that you might actually be trying to bring you therapist regard of you to be more in line of what you think of yourself? You know you've indicated more than once (and it's stuck out to me each time) that
"If anything, I think he thinks better of me than I deserve."
Just a thought.
Meanwhile my therapist and I are in a really good place right now. He hasn't pissed me off in a good long time.
Although, I DID go to the office the other day AND the door WAS locked. I just let it slide....
Seldom.
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