Posted by sharon7 on January 24, 2009, at 14:59:45
In reply to Re: Will I ever stop wanting/needing a 'Mommie?' » sharon7, posted by Dinah on January 24, 2009, at 14:19:44
Thanks Dinah. Im very happy for your progress and appreciate your kind words of support. i had sure hoped, though, that longing for the nurturing mother i didn't have would one day disappear. i think thats one reason im in such bad shape right now because i can't comfort myself anymore with words like "you won't always feel this way. the older you get, you'll want/need mothering less." but now i am older (44) and faced with the reality that the want/need has not gone away. Perhaps its lessened to a degree with age, and it's tons harder to find (or be found by) a surrogate mother in your 40's than say, in your teens or early 20's! but I am encouraged to hear you say (in my words) that even though you still feel the need for Mommie, the amount of distress and anguish it causes in your life is greatly reduced and 'episodes,' or meltdowns as we call them occur far less frequently. Hey, that sounds good to me. i guess it truly is a journey, huh?
You're not going to believe this, but that great post i made reference to reading today that was all the way back from 2002? You did not start the thread, but you shared much and posted several responses and i was so glad to learn i was not the only person to have this 'problem.' you might find it interesting to go back and look at some of the things you have written so many years back so you can appreciate how far you're come. Thanks again and keep up the good work.
- Sharon
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