Posted by rskontos on January 25, 2009, at 13:44:44
In reply to Will I ever stop wanting/needing a 'Mommie?', posted by sharon7 on January 24, 2009, at 13:12:52
Sharon,
my t, whom is also my p-doc, has told me that when I can think of him as a surrogate parent either father/mother then we are doing great things. Neither of my parents were great. My mother was undx'd BPD or bipolar. They were both abusive and neglectful. I have ranted at my t that I am tired of parenting myself. He says I need to let him but then that would involve trusting him. A real problem for me.
In any case, you are definitely not alone. But I agree with all. Talking about it is very beneficial. And not at all shameful.
It was not your fault that your parents abdicated their job and left you with the pieces to now try and pick up.
Transference is a good thing especially when dealt with correctly in the therapy room.
Good luck.
rsk
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