Posted by Dinah on June 17, 2009, at 21:41:18
In reply to Re: I've done nothing to get ready for tomorrow, posted by TherapyGirl on June 17, 2009, at 19:49:22
> She asked me to try to write the stuff I don't think she's getting. But I've just been too tired. And I don't think it will help. I think I've been clear enough she would have gotten it by now if she was half trying.
I totally understand. I'm having a similar experience with my therapist right now, and am coming to another of those downgrades of expectations I have to make now and then, because it's clear I care more about sustaining the relationship than he does. :(
It sounds as if you have been darn clear, and I get the frustration. But if it would help, maybe you could write it here and in the give and take of conversation with others, you might find a way you haven't thought of yet to say things so she can understand?
Tho honestly she sounds exactly like my therapist when he is hurting me with abandonment. Things he knows and understands quite well before and after, he becomes totally and determinedly oblivious to while he is in the process of abandoning me.
It must be some sort of protection to their own self esteem or something.
Is she like that? If you had talked to her about this before she decided to retire, would she have been more likely to understand?
(I'm sorry I asked the question then disappeared. It's been a cr*ppy few days. What with my mother, and hot flashes with the resulting lack of sleep, and now a humongous fight with my therapist, I'm more scattered than I might seem.)
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