Posted by workinprogress on June 19, 2009, at 3:07:29
In reply to Re: Progress, maybe » TherapyGirl, posted by Dinah on June 18, 2009, at 22:26:53
Therapygirl-
I haven't been involved in your threads at all to this point. I think in part because I can't imagine to have any new advice to add and also because it for me, like probably so many others who are just starting intense relationships with our Ts, brings up challenging feelings. I can't imagine saying goodbye now, much less at the point of my Ts retirement. So, while I empathize, it's also something that is hard to bare to think about. All that is to say... what you are going through must be so hard and scary.
But, I so connected with your thoughts of "I'm losing my mother", that was the point at which I thought, "I so get it". And, it seems that that was the point at which your T finally got it. It was so brave of you to say that, but clearly so meaningful to her, to both of you. I certainly hope that it's a permanent turning point for both of you in this chapter. I think it is telling though too, that it's what got me to really really feel and empathize and clearly it's what got her. And in the end, it was this pure honesty that connected you to her again. So scary to share, but absolutely real and honest. I think so often it is what's missing in all relationships, pure and total honesty.
I do hope that it proves that taking that risk and being completely honest is what moves you forward... And if it does, let that be a lesson to us all. Those risks and honesty are often worth it... if you've built a foundation of trust to got beforehand.
Wishing you all the best. Keep us posted.
(((((((Therapygirl)))))))
xo
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