Posted by baseball55 on May 12, 2015, at 19:48:18
In reply to Re: Pdoc said I'm too messed up to be helped by drugs!, posted by kilo8 on May 9, 2015, at 0:44:22
One of the things that made it easier for me to do therapy than, perhaps some others might find, was that I am a teacher. I love my job. I love my students. I care deeply about them. I look forward to going into work each day. But I would not go if I were not being paid.
So I understood that having a professional, paid relationship, does not preclude caring. Therapists are human and are people who've chosen to work in a profession where they deal with people in emotional distress. But they are not going to cry with you. They deal with people in distress all the time and their role is to help you cope with the distress and learn how to manage it. Hopefully, a good therapist can make you feel empathized with, even though the therapist does not shed tears or show that much emotion over your plight. the other thing I learned as a teacher, that therapists are also taught, is that you must preserve your emotional energy by setting boundaries. You can't take too much stuff home with you.
That being said, if your expectations and understanding of the limits and boundaries is realistic and you still can't feel the kind of connection you need to make you feel trusting and at ease, then you can't. Maybe at some later date, you might want to try and interview several people and see if you feel any might work. But, if not, whatever.
> hello,
> of course I'd like to have someone to talk to BUT if this person is a stranger (therapist) who also doesn't seem to really care and shows no empathy or emotions then how does this help me? then i can as well simply call a crisis hotline.
> talking to someone who cares is worth much more than to a "professional".
> when i talked to the therapist and told him about my illnesses he didnt seem affected at all. i was thinking that maybe this would make him feel sadness but i think it didn't. this also upsets me when i feel like he doesn't give a crap and to him this is just like hearing about a plane crash on the news.
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> i have tried a few therapists now and they all sucked and didnt seem to care at all. i dont think that this is for me. like i said if the therapist doesnt care then what's it worth?
> but why should therapists care? to them it's simply a job.
> i also read on forums where people actually felt worse when they stopped therapy. i think therapy can also create many more problems for example when you become attached to the therapist and then have to stop. i see this as a danger.
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