Posted by Horse on July 12, 2016, at 20:27:35
In reply to Re: Outrageous Psychologist » Lamdage22, posted by Tabitha on July 10, 2016, at 13:08:26
Bulls eye! I found this very helpful to read.
> > So this guy is like "you like being ill because you want attention from your parents". And he is like "you dont want to work". But WHY dont i want to work? Its because i have depression. And i not only dont want to work, i also cant.
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> > Change Therapist?
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> When I hear these tactics, I think of these possibilities:
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> 1) the therapist expects that this will motivate you to get angry and prove him wrong by changing. Fine, maybe that works for some people, but it might be profoundly counter-productive for others. Do you think this approach will help you improve your situation?
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> 2) they don't think it's likely to help, but this is their last resort. After they've tried everything in their bag of tricks, and you're still not improving, they go to "you must just want to be sick because you're getting secondary gains from it". I guess they think you might have a lightbulb moment and think "oh yeah, I do like all the rewards of being sick" and be able to just stop doing it.
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> 3) they don't expect it to help at all, but at least they've put the blame on you and distracted from the fact that they're not able to help you.
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> If you otherwise like this therapist, it might be worth asking them if they can use a different technique with you. If not, then I think they're clearly demonstrating that they don't know how to help you.
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