Posted by alexandra_k on August 7, 2016, at 0:33:43
In reply to Re: new person, posted by rjlockhart37 on July 30, 2016, at 0:41:18
I think of continuity as being like a rope or a strand of wool. There are lots of fibres of different lengths all wound up amongst each other. There isn't any one fibre that is present from the start and still present at the end but there are more overlapping fibres if you look at segments that are closer together and less if you look at segments that are further apart.
Sometimes it is easy to focus on a particular fibre and to not like it very much. It will pass / change, eventually. But then some other ones we might not like might arise... But there is continuity, too. Which is just as well. Because sometimes we don't see the good bits. The bits that we value, the bits that are valuable to others.
I don't know that I'm explaining this very well.
I know how it feels to really hate myself... It feels like hating every fibre of my being... But then if I stand back from that and see what it is about me that is doing the hating... That part of me is usually focused on things I value very much (e.g., my desire to be a good person to myself and others).
I think you are a pretty decent guy in a lot of ways RJ. I really hope you see some of those sometimes, too.
:)
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