Posted by alexandra_k on April 9, 2021, at 18:29:59
In reply to Re: Hating the people that spread hateredheals hatred?, posted by Lamdage22 on April 9, 2021, at 2:48:43
it is very very difficult.
i find boundaries really hard.
people in New Zealand are known to be boundary pushers, too, largely because so many of us were born into families that didn't have clear boundaries, either. Lack of quality role models.
i find it hard that people manipulate with emotions. people try and force others to comply with their will by tugging on heart strings, sure, being cute and leading and so on. but also they aren't afraid to call in induction of shame and guilt and fear...
some people have this ability to numb themselves or split or dissociate their emotions from their frontal lobes.
i suppose they think they are more advanced that they have higher cognitive control over their emotions. so they can use emotions to communicate whatever message their frontal loes want to be uptaken by others instead of using emotions to express how things are (genuinely) with them.
i suppose people think it's good to have options. i suppose that it true. choose to express or choose not to express.
but there's something inauthentic. calculating...
people who use emotions to control others often lack... ethical sensibility. not just with how they treat people but how they treat animals, too. often you can also see it in their attitude to nature as well. is there anything wrong with wonton destruction of a planet when nobody knows it exists and nobody will come to know? a sort of a... do you think that anything has value other than yourself (and by association with yourself everything else derives whatever value it has in virtue of you you you you you)?
to identify those people. or people operating on those premises.
i suppose it's possible for people to flippity flip or flop in their lives...
i don't know.
i think there is somethign about character traits.
i don't know.
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