Posted by Racer on October 2, 2000, at 16:14:53
In reply to Walking on egg shells..., posted by Greg on October 2, 2000, at 8:17:20
Yeah, or those folks who want to remind you of how much better you are now -- EVERY time you talk!
Mostly, I just remind myself that they mean well, and in my case they all do. One benefit of my most recent depression is this: I've 'fired' all my so-called-friends, and only retained those people who showed themselves to be true friends. Therefore, they mean well.
What do I do about it? I tell them, nicely, without witnesses, at a calm time of conversation, that it bothers me when they exclude me 'for my own good' and tell them why: I still have to function in a world which {shock horror} is not perfect! Usually, they still walk on eggshells, for a while, while experimenting with giving me bad news until they learn that I really can manage to hear it.
It helps that I've learned to tell them when it's not the right time for me to hear it. I guess it comes down to trust.
Now, Greg, you and I have spoken, so I know that you have the skills it will take to have these conversations, and to leave your listener feeling special. Go forth and triumph!
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