Posted by Dinah on May 22, 2003, at 9:53:05
In reply to 5/21/03 or how my life slipped over the guardrail , posted by leeran on May 22, 2003, at 1:33:24
I am so sorry, Lee. I can imagine how much that must hurt.
"and yes.
i know.
it's for the good of my son."
I wouldn't exactly say that, Lee. Especially about a man who says "i can't change enough for n. when he comes a few weeks here and there, so it will be easier if he's here all the time." Those aren't the words of a mature, responsible father. Chances are he's not going to be able to change sufficiently to be what your son hopes he will be. And chances are that your son will be hurt. And I know as a mom you would give anything if you could keep your son from hurting.
So it may not be what's best for him. But it may be what he needs to do. Something he needs to find out for himself. I hope that your ex can change, for your boy's sake.
Just keep being a wonderful mom. If it does work out, he won't ever forget that. And if it doesn't, he'll feel free to come home.
And I am sorry, Lee. I know it would make my heart break.
(((Lee)))
poster:Dinah
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